She seems frustrated when she elaborates on her partial successes in controlling her behavior. On one hand, she is happy about the progress, on the other hand, she is unhappy about losing control in certain situations. She has a behavioral plan, she follows it but sometimes she is lost in her emotions, unable to refrain from certain temperamental actions.
“I realize only afterward that my loosing of control produced no results, not the ones intended anyway, but on the contrary…”
“This is great. You seem to constantly be able to be aware of your actions, even if this is delayed from time to time”
“Yes, but I want to do better”
“How much better”
“8 out of 10, say, instead of 6 as I feel now”
“How can you do that?
“Being proactive, preventive… preparing myself and entering the right mindset before those meetings”
We sometimes lose sight of what we can be proud of already. We want more and more and we forget to celebrate what we achieved, to be compassionate about our missed fires. And other times we forget our power to (proactively) create, instead of just (reactively) solve.
“Do you have to follow each thought you have?”
“Do you? Are they all useful in any circumstance?”
Sometimes we lose sight of the fact that apart from thinking, we also can choose what thoughts to follow through.
“I think they will think bad of me after such uncontrollable acts from my part.”
“How do you know what they will think?”
“Isn’t it obvious?”
“That my acts are wrong?”
“What is wrong and right? Where lies the definition of it?”
“I think each of us can give meaning…”
“Indeed. I think so too. What is possible now for you, with this new understanding?”
Sometimes we forget that our actions and even our lives have no meaning unless we give them one. There’s no reality until we see it.
Some of us struggle to convince other of their reality. The smart ones see the fabric of our reality.
Life and work have no meaning until we create one.